I was watching a lifestyle show yesterday. One of the topics was about having stylish bangs. Nagulat ako dahil pwede rin pala ang mga lalaki na magkaroon ng bangs na babagay sa shapes ng faces namin. I thought it was a taboo for men. Baka kasi pagkamalan gay or ma-reveal ang pagkabading ng isa. 

It came no suprise to me when I saw the hair of one of the male housemates of PBB [Pinoy Big Brother]. He has stylish hair with bangs. Patagalid ang bangs niya siguro kasi bilog ang muka niya. Sa tingin ko bagay sa kanya. It only proves that he is secure with his sexuality.

I suddenly thought that because I am always concious of what others might think of me, I was not able to show my potentials. I always think of what I do and will do because of fear. In the end I had nothing to accomplish and prove. 

I conclude that it is only when we freed ouselves that we will manifest our uniqueness. It is nice to offer our unique self to the world. Hindi iyong puro paggaya kung saan kinakalimutan natin ang mga sarili natin. Sabi nga sa nabasa ko "everyone is already taken". It is about time to take our own. 

Siyempre hindi naman madali iyon as in theory. Lalo na sa ibang cultures where what others do matters to others. Paano pa kaya kung puro mga insecure ang mga nasa paligid mo? It is not that easy. So ano ang dapat gawin?

Siguro we must first establish a solid foundation - ourselves. Kapag tanggap na natin ang mga buong sarili natin, it is only when we can make others do. It is the time when we are no longer dependent on the reaction of others. Kapag wala ng takot! It is not done overnight as any other changes. Pero in time, if we are really determined to our resolve and we are willing to pay its price, it will come out naturally. Let us make it a goal!